Sunday, June 26, 2011

Self Worth 101

First of all, a few words from the new inspirational/self-help source: Tumblr (hehehe):

Project EAT comes to a conclusion, but not its end. I learned that the EAT in the whole Eat, Pray, Love serye isn't always found in foods (but still part of it). (I think) it meant giving yourself IMPORTANCE and LOVE and SELF VALUE that you'll give yourself the luxury of life without the guilt: be it fancy food, travel, nice clothes, or a new experience/skill. Pleasure, as how Liz Gilbert always coined it in her book. Also, I think it's about being kampante with who you are and what you are, regardless of what other people think. 

So this first of 3 chapters actually meant finding my self worth. The self esteem that slipped easily down the drain when the world went into uncontrollable havoc (although some were self-inflicted) made me one insecure b*tch you wouldn't want having around. Self value meant so so much more than I thought, that I have to recover IT as soon as I can!

To my readers and friends who can somehow relate in a way, here's something I read in Steven Aitchison's blog...I find it useful to follow since the list is practical and step-by-step. Might be worth sharing to you guys:

29 Ways to increase your feeling of self worth

By Steven Aitchison

From this website, no copyright infringement intended 

Self worth comes from within, you won’t find it by having more money, having more friends, having a fancy car or a big house.  It is something intrinsic and something we can’t gain extrinsically, meaning we won’t find self worth from external factors.  Here are some things you can do to increase your feeling of self worth.
  1. Write down 7 minor goals for the week and tick one off each day as you achieve it.
  2. Read a book a month.  Reading a book is actually an achievement in this technology and media  driven world and reading a full book is a great way to achieve a sense of accomplishment.
  3. At the end of each day before falling asleep write down something you feel proud about, either on the day or in the past.
  4. Tell someone else how much you appreciate them, being able to be open and honest is great for self worth.
  5. Say no! Learn the skill of saying no without offending the person asking.
  6. Everything you do, do to the best of your ability even if it cleaning the toilets or something equally as mundane, develop a reputation as someone who takes pride in their work.
  7. Walk tall and proud.  walk as if you’ve got somewhere to go and you need to be there now, never run just walk tall and quickly.
  8. Dress as smart as you can for each occasion, whether it be work, meeting a friend, or going for an interview.  Take pride in your appearance.
  9. Do something for yourself every day.
  10. Learn a new skill or take up something you’ve always wanted to and stick with it.
  11. Speak up for yourself in every area of your life, this might be hard to do at first but the first time you do it will be immense and if you carry on your self esteem and feelings of self worth will soar.
  12. Sing at the top of your voice, not outside but in the house and really give it loads (I love singing Free Fallin’ by Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers at the top of my voice, ah! such a good feeling.)
  13. Forgive yourself! (You know what I mean)
  14. Get rid of the people who are dragging you down (I don’t mean kill them, I mean just stop having them in your life.)
  15. Work on your strengths.  A lot of people focus on building up their weaknesses, instead get better at what you are good at.
  16. Take a walk in the rain………..Why?………..because you have the power to decide!
  17. Listen to other people and what they are saying.
  18. Reward your successes. As soon as you achieve something reward yourself.
  19. Never let anyone force you to break your core values.
  20. Stop the gossiping!
  21. Don’t read a newspaper for a week and gauge how you feel about yourself and the world around you.
  22. Help other people who need it.
  23. Always, Always, Always be honest with yourself and others.  There is no need for lies and the energy it takes to continue a lie is unbelievable.
  24. Take a chance and take a risk or two.  You don’t have long to live so just get up and do it.
  25. Listen to your self talk and slap the little person criticising you, I mean it, imagine there are two people one on each shoulder, the one who criticises you give them a slap or a punch in the mouth and start to pay attention to the one who is praising you.
  26. Don’t be afraid to accept help from other people, it means they respect you enough to help you with something.
  27. Start changing your thinking to be more optimistic about yourself, instead of ‘…I can’t do that….’ say ‘..I’ve never tried it, but I’ll give it a go…’
  28. Face your fears.  Nothing will send your self esteem soaring more so than facing your fears and eventually conquering them.
  29. Always leave comments on a blog you like :)

Again, this is not the end of "EAT" phase, but a conclusion of why I have to do this for myself. I tell myself 10x in the morning "I forgive you I forgive you I forgive you..." And another 10 repetitions of "I love you". I am trying so hard to make myself feel important because, there really is no tragic thing than not loving ones self. I am getting there. :)


Ending with these words from the final pages of EAT:

...I challenged AND trusted myself that I can surf, I ate and ate and drank as much coffee as I wanted like there's no tomorrow, I am reviving my long-time love and passion for selling and creating nifty items through Anagon Collection photo shoot and DLSU bazaar, and I shop for myself just because it felt good. This is just the beginning, because everything is a never-ending process. A journey that who knows where will lead me, but I trust in my ever-loving God, our Father, that the road will always always be for the better.



    "Take a chance and take a risk or two. You don’t have long to live so just get up and do it."

  2. I remember a quote from Neil Gaiman's book American Gods, "Which way would you walk — the way of hard truths or the way of fine lies?" wala lang, might be worth sharing :)

    Happy for you sis and the day by day developments. All in God's time, mwah! :)

    PS: Namiss ko yun book ko :(

  3. Note to self: STOP GOSSIPING!
    Thanks for that! :)
    God bless.

  4. A must-print list! Kailangan ko rin pala nito di ko lang pinapansin. Thank you for this post! :)

  5. Michelle, Krizzia, and Nadine: I am super happy that posting the list inspired others too :) Let's all help each other and pray for each other...All the best, guys! Love you all! :)

    Krissy: I really love that quote sis, thank you! :) I guess the truth no matter how hard it is to take it is always what we need anyway. No bullcrap kahit madali. :) More blessings to us, and to our happiness! Mwah!


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